Full humanity requires the ability to sense and be sensed in turn: the power, as Shakespeare said, to «feel what wretches feel» — or, one might also add, what artists, cooks, musicians and lovers feel.
We need to find our way in a tactile world again. We need to return from head to foot, from brain to fingertip, from iCloud to earth. To close the distance, so that eros is more about proximity than proxy. So that soul becomes flesh, where it belongs.
Such a move, I submit, would radically alter our «sense» of sex in our digital civilization. It would enhance the role of empathy, vulnerability and sensitivity in the art of carnal love, and ideally, in all of human relations.
Because to love or be loved truly is to be able to say, «I have been touched.»